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Finding the love of Leonard Cohen?

All week the boss has been banging on about the latest Leonard Cohen album, Old Ideas.

Just the title is enough to put most people off I’d think.

To me, until last night, I thought he was some old codger who’d sold off his rights to his royalties to clear his debt after some unscrupulous manager had somehow blown all his cash. Just think what he missed out on from American Idol and X Factor! Must have made him sick twice. Once for lost potential funds, and twice for the horror done to his songs. An old codger who refuses to just roll over and die.

So yesterday I burn a copy onto my i-tunes. And last night with lover boy away and nothing else to do I crack open a fine bottle of red and allow Leonard to slip into my life.

That’s kind of how it felt.

I played it once as I pottered around getting some pasta on the go.

Then got romantic. Lit a candle or four. Called up the lyrics, and listened again, reading word by word, like a boy might.

I could feel it. I was being drawn in. And I was loving it.

I was a tad tipsy when I played it again. And this time I tingled.

God. He may be old, but he worked a strange magic on me that I can’t quite believe I’m admitting to. Had lover boy come home there’d have been something special going on I tell you.

At 70 odd Mr Leonard has still got it and I want some more! I’ll be buying up the catalogue, and maybe on vinyl so there’s more effort, a more deliberate experience.

Phew. Think I’d better lie down after that.

BB.

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Where’s the best place to eat in the Brecons?

Bobby is just back from a romantic weekend at The Fellin Fach Griffin, just a few miles north of Brecon. Here’s what she had to say…

When lover boy proposed that we trek out to mid-Wales for a couple of nights I wasn’t best impressed. Having had too many family holidays in North Wales I feel scarred by the experience of too many grumpy pubs, bad food and of course the rain. But not being one to look a gift horse..

We went on Sunday morning, nipping down the motorway with the car beeping its warnings of an unholy temperature outside, but happily getting there within 3 hours and not being distracted by any nice scenery as it was a foul freezing foggy day. My mood was low.

But change was in store; as we pulled in to the drive of this charming (yes, this gets our charm vote) my mood began to lift, and pretty much stayed high for the next two and a half days. Were it not for the very Welsh weather you could have been in France.

Our room had just been painted and could have done with a few days of open windows, but the smell wasn’t too obtrusive. We had a commode! But not for use other than as a chair, and a lovely headboard arrangement with book shelf and room for a bottle or two.

The bed was ginormourous! And perfect with a great quilt and soft sheets. Great big fluffy towels too.

The high point was the food though. Lunch, dinner x two, breakfast x two. All fab (if a tad salty). I could have stayed a week just to have everything on the menu, we all had food envy in the dining room every night. Quantities were just right too, I can be put off by too much food on my plate.

No wonder it has plaudits as regarded as the difficult Jay Rayner. Try it, for lunch, but ideally dinner and a good night’s sleep.

The slight low was the lack of hot water, but even though it was freezing weather this was a minor set back in the joy of the whole relaxed and beautiful place.

To cal it shabby chic would imply it’s a bit scruffy, it’s not, it’s just very comfortable. We don’t tend to go back anywhere, but I want to do this again.

BB.

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How to Welcome a New Cat into your Home

Introducing a new cat into your home can be quite challenging, however using some of the techniques mentioned here should make the process a lot smoother. Animals have different personalities and some personalities can clash, so consider choosing a cat which has similar personality traits to the pets you already have.

When introducing the new cat, you need to allow for it to adjust to their new environment this can be done by confining them to one room at first. If the new cat isn’t house trained, then this confinement is an ideal time to start training. During this time introduce the new scent to your existing pets so they can get used to it, then look at slowly introducing the new cat to the rest of your home and the domain of your other pets.

If you already have cats in the home you will understand that they can be extremely territorial and they don’t like change so introduce the new cat slowly, room by room so your existing pets don’t feel like their home is being taken over. Don’t be disheartened if they don’t get on straight away, this whole process does take time.

Just like you can’t force people to like each other, you can’t force pets to like each other either, so when looking to introduce a new cat into your household where you already have pets you really need to have realistic expectations.

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More Charm!

We were delighted by the responses we received to our little charm article, so we thought we’d extend the topic a little further and see where we get.

Thanks also to Chairman Peter who brought us a copy of a fabulous, if somewhat high brow, magazine called Monocle which has an article on charm this month. It seems like they travel the world rather more than us poor folk stuck here in Manchester, but nonetheless just because their examples span the globe, the basic principle matches ours.

Let’s say that it’s something very human that is broken down by every mechanical or computerised stage that comes between one human and another.

And that’s not to say that human to human interaction is necessarily charming. Far from it. It involves a deliberate or conscious consideration of what the other person’s needs or wants may be, and what might simply improve their day.

We will practice charm at One Question Towers in the hope that it will become our natural demeanour putting us in a stronger position for the human interactions we make today, next week, through life.

There’s a spiritual feel to the One Question office today and we like it. It’s banishing the grim cold and hail that’s threatening our chipper mood. Threatening, but it’ll not penetrate.

We all felt the beauty of charm last night at an Indian in town. While most of the staff there did their usual super polite thing, only one had charm. How she managed a degree of sincerity with her smile and well wishes remains a mystery, but its impact was so different to that of her colleagues. East 2 East. Try it if you’re in town.

I feel a charm page is needed to sit alongside this one. Shame I don’t know how to create it!

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What’s the point of pets?

Sean has no pets (thank god, he can’t look after himself too well, sorry Sean).

Bobby has a cat, sort of, in that it hardly ever comes into the house, and yet somehow manages to devour all its food every day.

Tracey has her rabbit (and that’s where this conversation started).

And KC has his dog that comes to the office most days now.

But why?

Well, as far as Sean is concerned, he has no pets as we’d all go around and rescue any poor creature unfortunate enough to be taken home by him (except girls).

But looking at it sensibly. Pets are a pain in the bum. You have to go home to them, take them out, feed them, insure them, pray they don’t ruin every other possession in your house, and in the case of dogs, pray they don’t eat other people’s children. You have to groom them, clean up after them and entertain them.

Madness.

In the office we agreed that a dog was the hardest pet, but also the most rewarding as they’re pretty much domesticated and do like to please. The independence of a cat has its advantages and they’re unlikely to cause too many problems beyond wrecking the sofa and depleting the local bird population.

But the rabbit? Tracey doesn’t even have kids! Sorry girl. We don’t understand. Yes it’s cute, but it poos all over your flat! I know you try to tell us it’s house trained, but we’ve been to yours and found its little “presents” around the place.

The pluses of course is that if the damn thing stays still long enough to be stroked it’s a pleasant thing to do, and you always have an excuse for leaving to go home when you’re bored. Still. A rabbit?

Having sort of agreed that they’re all more trouble than they’re worth, we then confounded common sense by also agreeing that none of us would give ours back!

Why? Well, just go get yourself one and see.

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What is charm?

What a lovely question. We have been debating charm for some weeks and its importance in life.

Debating its importance and our view that its disappearing, being forced out.

We like to think of ourselves as modern folk in the One Question world, but folk with an eye on what can be learned from other times. I guess that’s demonstrated to a degree by our love of the term “folk”. And charm is up there with things we don’t want to loose.

We consider charm to be a very human thing, never necessary, but perfect when offered.

It’s challenged by the sleek, the efficient, the mass produced that looks great, but just lacks something, by the bean counters who demand standardised everything.

It’s offered up by the genuine smile, the crooked street, the craftsman.

Much of London has charm, little of Milton Keynes.

Internet banking destroys it, a face to face meeting with someone who cares may help to restore it.

We say bring on the charm, and walk that bit further to the independent coffee shop, and tell them why, lest they should forget their survival depends on something the big boys can’t offer.

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Where is it hardest to smoke?

Well I guess the obvious answer is under water, but I was thinking more of a wider location type thing, at a country level. This was prompted by Bobby’s fling with a Finnish guy recently. Sean and I snarled at that, we didn’t like the idea of one of our girls being whisked off by Johhny Foreigner, especially not a cool dude like Frid, bloody good looking and annoyingly likeable too.

Anyway, we poked around the subject of smoking with Frid while standing outside the Met on Burton Road enjoying a puff and decided that Finland could well be the hardest place to enjoy a light bit of carcinogenic inhalation. And it works, there are only 18% smokers in the country against a European average of 23%.

The government intend to ban smoking totally by 2040. But I wonder why they don’t just do it quicker?

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Online Gaming Anyone?

I complained that choosing the Irishman to write about online gaming was racial stereotyping, and guess what the boss said?

“Exactly. Now get on with it!”

All in good taste I promise, we’re a happy gang in the One Question suite I promise.

Now, despite being Irish and liking the occasional flutter on the horses I have to confess to knowing nothing about online gaming. But my bad boy brother does! He’s just so into the tables at the casino that he just wants to carry on his addiction into whatever else he’s doing. Good job he’s a well paid trader in something or other.

On his i-pad he plays slots and various blackjack games at 888. In fact even on his i-phone he plays some kind of solitaire.

So there boss. Nothing from my mind, but a story for the big bro who knows his stuff in this topic.

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Tea or coffee?

We love our random questions at the One Question offices and we were delighted this morning when one of you lovely readers sent a simple text asking just this.

Tea or coffee?

So we brewed up. Tea and coffee, and had a little debate.

There was no consensus.

KC likes tea first thing, then at least one coffee, but never more than two, then tea again later in the day. So traditional – morning coffee, afternoon tea.

Tracey just drinks tea.

Sean drinks whatever anyone’s making – that’s the student in him!

And me? I confuse the whole thing by drinking herbal teas, or lesbian teas as the oh so politically correct boss calls them.

We did agree though that coffee is for kicks and tea is more thirst quenching, but as both are diuretic I guess neither actually quench your thirst.

Drink water folks. It’s easy.

What about you?

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How do you prepare for a telephone interview?

It’s a great place here at One Question to the extent that I have been able to be quite open about it being a stop gap job for me as I find the thing that will help me pay my way in the world and get me started properly in life.

Today I had a telephone interview for the first time and KC asked me to write up my experience as a One Question post.

There are good and challenging bits about telephone interviews I’ve discovered.

The good things are:

  • you can have a summary of your thoughts in from of you
  • you can have the company web site in front of you
  • you can walk around
  • and you can have a copy of your CV – it’s amazing how a question about something you know you’ve written can throw you
The challenges are:
  • you can’t see their reactions
  • you have to smile like a looney to be sure your enthusiasm is coming over
  • they could be in their underpants!
My preparation consisted of:
  • notes on the company
  • notes on what i thought they should do
  • crafted strengths and weaknesses statements
  • summaries (in 50 words) of what I knew about the guys I spoke to
  • getting dressed as if I was in front of them!
The last bit was vital. I am pretty casual most of the time, but i had to break my mind away from that. A suit and an ironed shirt helped enormously. I even polished my shoes this morning!
And I even quite enjoyed it!

Sean.

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