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Answering Those Everyday Questions

What is charm?

What a lovely question. We have been debating charm for some weeks and its importance in life.

Debating its importance and our view that its disappearing, being forced out.

We like to think of ourselves as modern folk in the One Question world, but folk with an eye on what can be learned from other times. I guess that’s demonstrated to a degree by our love of the term “folk”. And charm is up there with things we don’t want to loose.

We consider charm to be a very human thing, never necessary, but perfect when offered.

It’s challenged by the sleek, the efficient, the mass produced that looks great, but just lacks something, by the bean counters who demand standardised everything.

It’s offered up by the genuine smile, the crooked street, the craftsman.

Much of London has charm, little of Milton Keynes.

Internet banking destroys it, a face to face meeting with someone who cares may help to restore it.

We say bring on the charm, and walk that bit further to the independent coffee shop, and tell them why, lest they should forget their survival depends on something the big boys can’t offer.

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Where can I find love?

Whoa! Big question from Bobby there!

Sweetheart we all love you.

But I know that’s not enough, so here’s my sensible answer, and as usual I’m going to tell it as a story.

I met an old friend a few weeks back, let’s call him Mark.

Mark has been having a hard time over the last few years as his wife was poorly, very poorly, and unfortunately it ended badly with Mel’s death last year. But this isn’t a story of gloom, this is a story of joy.

Mark realised that he is not cut out to live alone and had to find someone new to share his life with – but he’s 40 and he had no interest in going to the sort of places where he might just find someone within his suitable age range who was single and not a bunny boiling maniac, with their face distorted by plastic surgery and an orange tan (Mark’s words, but we know the type don’t we?).

Another friend of his told him to try Parship, which is one of the online dating agencies.

I had to suspend my scepticism for a while. I didn’t like the idea much, but understood Mark’s position.

I wouldn’t be telling this if it weren’t going well would I? And sure enough it is. Mark was sent details of a few women who had been profiled by Parship and seemed to be a good match for Mark. He met three of them. He arranged all the meetings at once and saw all three women over the following two weeks and enjoyed meeting each of them. He only met one girl again, and then met her again, and again. They have only been together for three months so far, but Mark says that he has no idea how he could have met such a lovely girl without Parship.

How’s that for a sweet, true, and sincere answer to a difficult question?

But Bobby – just remember we all have to vet any man you want to date.

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